The Ongoing Argument

Last updated: [PLACEHOLDER: date]

The short version

The Ongoing Argument is a self guided, AI assisted communication tool. It is not therapy, counseling or medical care, so please do not expect the confidentiality that comes with those services.

You write about something personal. We keep what you write so the tool can work for you, we send it to an AI service to produce replies, and we do not sell it or use it for advertising.

What we collect

• Account details: your name, email address, your partner’s first name, and the name you give your recurring argument.
• What you write: your answers, scripts, notes and conversations with the AI inside the tool.
• Couple details: which accounts are linked as a couple and how far you have each progressed.
• Payment status: whether your couple has paid. Card details go straight to Stripe and we never see or store them.
• Safety notices: if your wording suggests fear, control or coercion, we record the account, the step and the time. We do not record your answer in that notice.
• Technical data: basic request information that our hosting provider keeps in server logs. We do not run advertising or analytics trackers. Your browser stores a sign in token and some settings so you stay signed in.

How we use it

• To run the service for you and your partner.
• To take payment and prevent fraud.
• To keep people safe, including reviewing safety notices and replying to you.
• To fix problems and improve the service.

Who handles it for us

• Anthropic (AI). The text you type into the tool is sent to Anthropic to generate replies. [PLACEHOLDER: lawyer to confirm Anthropic data terms and whether they apply to our account]
• Google Firebase for sign in and our database.
• Netlify for hosting and the server code behind the site.
• Stripe for payments.
• EmailJS for sending notices such as invitations and safety notices.
• Google Fonts supplies the typefaces, which means your browser contacts Google when pages load.

We do not sell your personal information.

Waiting list

If you join the waiting list on our home page, we use your email address only to tell you when The Ongoing Argument goes live. We do not use it for anything else and we do not sell it. It is stored with the service providers listed above.

Who can see it

Your partner sees only what the service shares with them, such as the invite details and a finished script at the steps where the service says so. The operator of the service can access account details and your work in the tool when needed for support, safety and keeping the service running. [PLACEHOLDER: confirm exactly who at Life’s A Mitch LLC has access, and why]

How long we keep it

We keep your information while your account is open. [PLACEHOLDER: retention period after closing] You can ask us to delete your account and your writing at any time.

Your choices

You can ask to see, correct or delete your information, or to close your account, by writing to mitch@theongoingargument.com. [PLACEHOLDER: lawyer to add state and international rights, for example California]

Security

Access is protected by sign in and by database rules that keep each person’s private writing in their own space. No system is perfectly secure, so please choose a strong password.

Children

The service is for adults. We do not knowingly collect information from anyone under 18.

Changes

If we change this notice in a meaningful way we will tell you in the service or by email.

Contact

mitch@theongoingargument.com